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sxeually abused son
Feb 9 2010, 12:14 AM EST
In recent weeks my 19 year old son has come to me to tell about being sexually abused by his cousin when he was 9-10 years old. We did see a lot of changes in him at the time but never for one moment suspected this to of happened. He has had a terribly time these past 10 years can not trust anybody feels worthless not being able to tell any one thinking it was his fault. The abuser was 14 at the time. What if anything can we do about this now. He has seen a counsellor twice. At $80 a visit we can not keep it going, she has told him it is up to him if he wants to report it but because of the ages it may not be of any help. It is destroying him, he has so much pain.
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1. RE: sxeually abused son
Feb 18 2010, 5:04 PM EST
Hi um i dont know if this is much help but i was sexually abused by my stepfather from the ages of 2 1/2 till 10 and im now 20 when i was 17 i decided to strat pursuing this in a criminal perspective and now just this year is the actual trial. so it is hardwork and does take time. but if it will help him with closure and to move on and grow as a person then maybe he should pursue it. it falls under historical sexual abuse. as for the ages because the perpetraitor was still young i dont know what the outcome will be but yeah.
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2. RE: sxeually abused son
Mar 28 2010, 10:22 PM EDT
thanks for the reply and great advice. Not sure if there are other places where you could perhaps find a counsellor that is not as costly as it seems to have been helping him. We do hear more about historical abuse now and police are obliged to investigate reports. There may be other options instead of court around restorative processes that allow a person to face the abuser in a safe and supported environment, which whilst not easy could give your son the foundation from which to move on.I found a couple of sites that may be of use, good luck http://www.survivor.org.nz/MSSAT/Home.html http://www.rapecrisis.org.nz/content.aspx?id=55 Do you find this valuable? |
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3. RE: sxeually abused son
Sep 28 2011, 1:39 AM EDT
Hi there, I was sexually abused when I was younger and after telling my doctor I was able to get counselling funded by ACC it was a massive help. God bless your son x
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