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1. RE: Deciding who I will lve with
Oct 8 2009, 5:44 PM EDT
It depends how old you are, but if you are old enough and smart enough to come here and ask then probably yes. But: Do both of them want you to live with them? Are both of them capable of parenting you well by themselves? (Some parents might love their kids but be lousy parents is what I am getting at.) In terms of the adult you want to become one day - the sort of person you want to be when you've finished being a teenager, which parent is most likely to be able to guide you there? (Clue: usually its the one that tells what you do the most and has the most rules and who themselves is responsible, has a good work and family ethic, has good character in terms of the way they treat the people in their lives and how those people treat them - look at their friend and family and community circle beyond you) (If I could go back and talk to myself as a child when my parents split and I was faced with this decision, the above is what I'd say to the young me) Do you find this valuable? |
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2. RE: Deciding who I will lve with
Oct 12 2009, 5:59 PM EDT
As already metioned it depends how old you are. The court must allow any child or young person to 'participate in decisions' that affect them, obviously who you will live with is a major decision and you views should be taken into account. If there are court proceedings about this you will be appointed your own lawyer. It is important to ensure your lawyer takes your views into account and puts your views across in any court case about who you will live with. You could check out our info sheet for more info about Lawyer for Child http://www.youthlaw.co.nz/page/lawyers+for+young+people Although it is useful to remember that your parents, lawyers and judge may not agree with your preference and does not have to act on your view. Do you find this valuable? |
